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A look inside can be difficult… perhaps that’s why we look outward so often?

How often do we talk about how “people” need to be: more tolerant; more forgiving; less judgmental; more honest; willing to do the right thing more often; more patient less hurtful; less hateful, more loving and on and on?

It seems as if we’re never at a loss for words to express the many failures, shortcomings and imperfections of our leaders, sports figures, celebrities, co-workers, friends and family and anyone else in the world that obviously has so much to learn and improve upon.

Why doesn’t everyone else get it?  Why don’t they see that if they were like me, thought like me and acted like me, the world would be such a better place!


Here’s the question.  Are we willing to turn our critical gaze inward and truly reflect on how often and where in our lives these statements apply to us?

This isn’t to beat our selves up, but to be honest with our selves when it comes to acknowledging our own shortcomings.  Where do we need to improve?  How often do we fall short of the standards we apply to others?

One of the keys to compassion, understanding and love for others seems to be the honest admission that we all have junk; we’re all imperfect and we all need to respect one another in our brokenness, imperfection and struggle to find our way in this crazy world.   Every single one of us could be: less judgmental; less prideful; more tolerant; more understanding, more generous and more loving!

So, the next time we’re ready to “unload” on someone and tell them how “wrong” they are, perhaps we should first turn our gaze inward and honestly look at ourselves.  We’ll likely find we have a lot more in common with those we are ready to condemn than we really want to admit.  And when we do this, it seems very likely we will be more compassionate and understanding when we talk about and to others.

Speak all things in kindness and love (isn’t that how we want and expect others to speak about and to us?)… and see how it changes our world!

God’s Peace!


Tim Kreider
About the Author

Tim Kreider is passionate about helping people find healing and wholeness. He shares his story at churches, businesses, youth groups and other gatherings, and he started a non-profit organization called Also-Me that encourages people not to live life alone. He lives in Womelsdorf, PA with his wife Lynn.

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